Having a Baby at 40+
Man! Who would have thought that I would be over 40 and have a baby. Ok…he’s not quite a baby anymore. He just turned 1 year old.
But I am turning 43 in a couple of months.
I can say…having children at a later age has been good for me. I am more patient. I give as much time as possible to them. And I cherish the moments more than if I had, had them earlier. So for those reasons…having them later was better. But Emma I had in my late 30’s.
I had hoped to have Mattias before I turned 40, but it didn’t quite happen that way.
More women are having babies in the 40’s than ever before. In fact, Women’s Health, in their Rise of the Midlife Mom article, says that birthrates for women between ages 40 and 44 have hit a 4 decade high.
And why not? There are some great benefits to waiting to have children until you are much older. In addition to having more patience and cherishing the time that I have with them (as mentioned above), I am much more financially secure now and I am wiser, more experienced as an older mom.
But let’s get real. Its also hard. The older you are, the more tired you are. And balancing an established career and family is challenging as well. It’s definitely not as easy as if you were younger.
In the end, however, regardless of your age, having a baby to love and nurture is the most rewarding gift.
I can honestly say, I am truly blessed to have Mattias and Emma!
Today I am Grateful for these 3 Things…
- Emma. She is the most happy, loving, caring little girl who loves her mama so much!
- Mattias. While he has some of that same good-natured characteristics that Emma has, he is his own for sure. Much more strong willed. But just as Emma, he loves his mama fiercely. Definitely a mama’s boy.
- Andreas. I couldn’t ask for a better dad for our children. He loves them more than I thought a dad could love their children. He takes Emma on Daddy/Emma dates, he manages alone when I have to travel and he tries to help lighten my load when I need it with just the daily, mundane kid duty tasks.
I am blessed.